How to Maintain A Vibrant Sex Life In a Relationship

Many couples I talk to feel like their sex life has become as repetitive as brushing teeth.

They think the solution is buying sex toys, googling different positions, or playing sick patient and sexy nurse. Don’t get me wrong, all these things can be fun, however, constantly coming up with new creative ways to spark the erotic flame can feel like work. And who needs more work after a long fucking day at work?

Here is the good news: it doesn’t have to be like that!

Explore the old rather than invent the new

An interesting sex life is not about constantly finding new things to do. It is about finding different shades in the same things you have been doing all along. Let me explain.

A kiss is not just one thing. You can kiss with tongue, bite a lip, kiss as soft as you can, lick the other one’s lips, suck at your partner’s tongue, kiss roughly, up against a wall, rolling around on the floor, kiss the neck, arms, stomach, legs. You can pull hair, grab ass, put your hands in her back pockets, squeeze her tits, lift her up,…

It is the same exact thing with intercourse. Sex is hardly just one thing. It is romantic, it is wild, it is tense, it is dirty, it is innocent, it is soft, it is salty, it is sweaty, it is quick, it is slow, it is rough, it is dominant, it is loud, or silent. The list goes on and on.

The same principle applies to every other element of pleasuring each other. It’s like switching from business news to the animal channel. Both qualify as watching TV, yet they differ quite a bit.

So if you want to revive your sex life don’t look for the new but take the tried and true and come up with new variations. Your partner will thank you for it.

Why Preparation Is Key For First Date Success

Everyone always talks about tips for the first date once you’re already there. Maybe they even give you a few cheesy ideas for what to do, but one crucial aspect of dating is usually missed: preparing beforehand and getting into a good mindset.

Why is that so important? If you’re not feeling confident, then you won’t present your best self. And as we all know, you have precious minutes to make a strong first impression.

Once someone has an image of you, it becomes so much harder to change that. This applies universally to men and women. So, every time you have a date, you want to take steps to go in with high energy and be at your best from the first minute.

My coach that I worked with back in the day opened my eyes to the huge benefits that preparation provides and I’ve had great success with it ever since. Nowadays I don’t have bad dates anymore. Sure, I meet people that aren’t a good fit and that I do not want to continue seeing (or vice versa) but I always have a good time on the date and so do the women I meet.

Applying these tips, you too will develop a pre-date routine that will guarantee you look your best, feel your best, and design an unforgettable experience that you’ll both love.

Additional resources to help you prepare for a first date

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