About Us
Who are we and why did we start Love Life Solved?
All of us have something in common: We all want a fulfilling love life.
For most of us, that means a happy, monogamous relationship with a woman we love. For some of us, it means making experiences with many different partners. For others, the pinnacle of a satisfying love life is dating multiple women.
You are here, which probably means that somewhere on the path towards the love life of your dreams you faced a seemingly insurmountable challenge, a roadblock so to speak.
These darn roadblocks come in all sizes and shapes:
- Some of you are here because you are too shy to start conversations with the women you want to meet.
- Some of you are here because you get so nervous around attractive women that you act like a completely different person.
- Some of you are here because you fall in love with every cute girl you meet.
- Some of you are here because you just came out of a long relationship and want to brush up your dating skills.
- Some of you are here because you seem to always end up in situations where you want more from her than she wants from you.
Whatever your personal roadblocks are, you are in luck. We are in the roadblock removal business.
Starting right now, you are going to learn how tiny changes in your lifestyle, mindset, and behavior will lead to a more fulfilling love life full of exciting experiences.
Of course, you’ll learn which signs women give you to signal interest, how you can take her on an unforgettable date, and how you can transition from an exciting conversation to more.
But more importantly, we’ll dive deep into the underlying principles of human attraction and introduce you to a revolutionary new dating method that feels completely natural to you and her.
Best of all, once you’ve taken the first and biggest hurdle – getting started – you’ll find that the strategy we follow is a ton of fun.
For good reason: We strongly believe that lasting change can only happen when you enjoy the process.
It’s similar to weight loss:
The guy who starves himself for two weeks might initially lose more weight than the guy who permanently changes his nutrition.
But because he cannot maintain a diet of close to zero calories for very long, eventually, he’ll yo-yo back.
Our other guy will slowly but surely acquire a different taste and he’ll learn to actually enjoy healthy food and thus the pounds will keep dropping as a byproduct of him indulging in delicious meals.
It’s the same in dating. Sure, you can force yourself to go out and approach 50 women per day. And you’ll probably get fast (but bad) results. But what happens after you stop? Right, you fall back to where you started from. The anxiety is still there. The insecurity is still there.
“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.”
– Confucius
Your other option is to make tiny but continuous changes to become a confident man with a great lifestyle who is able to connect with women emotionally, which will ultimately lead to you meeting and attracting women that are your type, everywhere you go.
With this “strategy”, women aren’t the goal but (excuse this term) a by-product of the awesome new life that you’ve created for yourself.
The choice which path to take is yours. Just consider, that we have seen in our own lives as well as with our clients that the only change that works in dating is change that you can maintain for a long time.
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Hey, we are Julian Reisinger and Kristina Kirilova!
We are the Austrian-Bulgarian founder couple behind Love Life Solved.
Often when we get asked what we do, we experience mixed feelings. On the one hand, we know that we help countless men in a completely legitimate way, but on the other hand, we do also know that most people think of us as a bunch of pickup artists who teach guys tricks to get laid.
Here is the thing, though: All the pickup guru BS that’s prevalent on the internet disgusts us.
We started this site because we wanted to share the knowledge and experience we have, combine it with the knowledge and experience of others and turn it all into a one-stop resource for good guys who want better results with women. Some will find it helpful and others won’t. But that’s ok.
A wise man (forgot which one) once said that you should only take advice from people who already get the results you want.
So if you want to become a man that feels confident and sexy in his own skin and is able to attract exceptional women without trying to “pick them up”, then this site is for you.
All that’s left to say for now is welcome to Love Life Solved! We are thrilled to have you!
We will help you…
- Start conversations with the women you want to meet.
- Overcome your shyness, especially around attractive women.
- Gain more control over negative emotions like jealousy, anger, or frustration.
- Create a kickass lifestyle that allows you to meet women naturally.
- Become happy, even if you are alone.
- Hone your social skills so you can hold fascinating conversations without nervousness or awkward silence.
- Build unshakable confidence that shows in your behavior and body language.
- Stop caring so much about what others think.
- Never end up in the friend zone again.
- Recognize the subtle signs women give you to signal interest.
- Fight less and love more, once you are in a relationship.
Every month, thousands of visitors come to this site. Most of them are highly intelligent men with successful careers. Their strength in business is their weakness with women: looking at the world through an extremely rational and analytical lens.
No wonder, over-analytical men like to see dating as a skill that can be methodically learned like surfing or repairing a car.
When you want to learn how to surf, you just need to get the equipment, take some lessons, and practice as much as possible.
It’s still not easy, but follow this process and over time you’ll become a decent surfer no matter how much you suck now.
Unfortunately, dating doesn’t work like that. (trust us, Julian has tried)
To get better results with women you need to shift the focus away from what you want – women – and focus on yourself first.
The reason for this is that dating problems are emotional problems and, thus, can only be solved on an emotional level.
I’ll illustrate with an example:
You don’t run out of things to say because you don’t know anything to say but because you can’t access all the information under nervousness. (and it’s possible to be nervous without consciously knowing it) In psychology, this is called Stress Trance.
You see, the solution to never running our of words again is not to memorize canned lines but to lower your conscious and subconscious nervousness.
There are many examples like this in dating and all of them require an emotional solution.
We help guys achieve this change from rational to emotional through two processes:
The first is strengthening your social skills and emotional intelligence in order to enable you to communicate with women on an emotional level rather than a rational one. This will help you enter into a positive feedback loop that will slowly alter your mindset.
The second is an internal change. In order to get better results with women, you need to stop trying to impress them. Once you are able to show authentic vulnerability, you will stand out from all the other guys who compete for women’s attention.
Emotional intelligence, plus social skills, plus being comfortable with yourself is a winning combo with women.
AS SEEN ON
Your blog and your advice worked like a charm. I’ve been in a relationship for two months now and finally the other day lost that pressure of virginity. It feels like I can actually live my life happily now, now that I’ve proven to myself I can be successful on the romantic front.
LUCAS
What are some (more or less) interesting facts about you and Love Life Solved?
- Julian used to be the personal assistant for a dating coach that primarily worked with executive clients who paid up to $200,000 for his services.
- Kristina is an inch taller than Julian.
- Love Life Solved was originally named How to Get a Girlfriend.
- On our first retreat in Spain, one of our clients met a cute girl and they started dating. One year later he moved to Spain to live with her. Now they are engaged and run a business together.
- Julian and Kristina met each other over Facebook. One day, Julian messaged Krisi out of the blue. She replied 10 months (!) later. The rest is history.
Love Life Solved enables good guys to become successful with the women they like – without acting like someone they are not.