Men often blame women for being too complicated and not knowing what they want. Enough with the excuses! Here is everything you need to make her feel the butterflies all over again.
Women love attention – and most from their boyfriends. It´s not like we want to hear “I can’t live without you” or “I have never seen someone that beautiful”. We won´t believe that!
Instead show through your actions that she is your number one. For example: When I am out with my boyfriend and some friends, he sometimes looks me in the eyes and winks at me – whenever he does that I truly know I am his girl.
Keep these tips in mind:
- Don’t do it all the time or the action becomes meaningless.
- Find an action that is uniquely yours. Winking works for my boyfriend and it fits his personality. You might prefer a different form of giving her attention like hugging her from behind or whispering in her ear.
- Your action must be in line with your feelings. Don’t give her attention if you can’t back it up with strong emotions for her.
Most women love to talk and analyze everything. That can be annoying, I know, but it´s important to us. It makes me happy, when my boyfriend listens to the things I am saying. Women need to talk about problems and fears and feelings. Just listening to us for a few minutes makes the world turn again. Next time, ask how her day was and let her talk for a while. Yes, even when you had a long day at work and feel tired like a dog. You will see (and feel) the difference! Note: When I say listening I mean paying full attention to what she says and asking her intelligent questions about it. Just nodding your head while thinking about the upcoming football game won’t cut it.
Helping you out makes a woman feel valued. Your girlfriend wants to take part in your life. Many men think “she is not interested in my job or hobbies so why would I talk with her about it?” but that’s not true at all! We want to know what keeps you up at night! Who knows, maybe you can even profit from a different perspective.
Especially in long-term relationships men tend to take their partner for granted. Don’t forget what a lucky man you are and tell her from time to time! A great moment to let your honey know about your feelings is when she is not expecting it. Next time you sit on the couch and watch a movie, look over to your girlfriend and notice all the things about her that you love so much. Then, once this feeling of love and gratitude builds up inside of you turn to her, look into her eyes and start kissing her. When she asks what the occasion was tell her “There is no occasion, I am just happy having you by my side.” Important: Only do and say what you feel! If you are just saying the words without the feelings than you might as well say nothing at all.
In long term relationships men often complain about having sex less frequently. On the other side women often miss being caressed. But that’s exactly what a woman needs in order to relax, forget about everything for a moment and feel truly desired and beloved.
My opinion is that caresses like stroking her hair gently are a great way for revitalizing your sex life. We love when a man discovers our body with kisses. Foreplay that includes cuddling, kissing and stroking is an essential part of sex!
You can also turn it into a fun game. Tell her how much you desire her and try to build up as much sexual tension in her as you can. See for how long she can resist you. Drive her crazy and enjoy it!
Little somethings, like her favourite chocolate, or a homemade meal are a perfect way to tell your girl how much you appreciate her. Even a simple flower, when given without a special occasion, makes us happy. (and it costs next to nothing)
All that counts is your intentions. Even if you try to cook a meal for her and it´s a complete disaster. She will appreciate it because you tried hard.
Over time routine sneaks into a relationship. Couples spend a lot of time together. But unfortunately the quality of the time spent together decreases. In order to prevent that from happening you must not stop dating your girlfriend!
Take her ice-skating or try other forms of sport together. Take her out to her favorite restaurant or watch a movie in a little frequented cinema. It doesn’t have to be something special that has to be planned three months in advance. Just invite her to places you have been with her before. Like the place you have met her for the first time.
This is to your own advantage: Next time you want to spend some time with your boys – she won´t be pissed. Why? Because you are doing some special things with her!
Men aren’t responsible for planning all activities in a relationship. Both partners should come up with suggestions on how to spend time together. So make sure you ask her what she would like to do every now and then! If she comes up with a couple of options but can’t quite decide what is best you should take the lead again and make a decision.
Good Relationship with Her Loved Ones
Having the people she loves on your side is a tremendous advantage! What the folks who know her best think of you matters to her. A lot! Therefore try hard to build a good relationship with them. It pays off!
As you can see, making a woman happy isn’t as complicated as it seems. After all it’s the little things that show how much you appreciate having her on your side.
Try some or all of the tips above and let me know in the comments how it worked out.