Everyone is afraid of taking certain actions.
- Should I ask this cute girl from work out?
- Should I go and start kickboxing?
- Should I put a stop to people walking all over me?
- Should I tell my parents I love them?
We are afraid of rejection, afraid of the outcome, afraid of getting hurt. All our life we are afraid. I know that nothing I write here can free you from the anxiety. But I can give you a new perspective which might motivate some of you to take action despite feeling fear. I’ll do it with an analogy.
Life is like standing on the edge of a cliff, ready to dive in. Azure blue water below you swashing against the rocks. You feel the wind in your hair and on your skin. The jump looks high. It’s probably safe, but still this fear of height and the uncertainty makes jumping in a hell lot more complicated than it should be.
Now here comes the funny thing about life. It’s not good at patience. It employs this little asshole boy that stands behind you on the cliff yelling, “Come on! Jump already, you wuss!”
If you decide to jump, you can control the impact. Feet together, arms crossed in front of the chest. You are safe.
But if you take too long and let the fear get the better of you, life’s little prick boy will assist you with a good old kick in the ass, making you fall uncontrollably and hitting the surface hard. You can get hurt or even die from the impact.
What I am trying to tell you, with this ingenious analogy, is that staying comfortable is not an option in life. If you remain fearful and just wait what happens, you will always hit the surface hard.
Life penalizes inaction and rewards action!
- If you don’t want to work, life will force you to live on the streets.
- If you never overcome your fear of talking to women, you will live and die alone, your six Mongolian gerbils crawling all over you.
- If you don’t push yourself to get up in the morning, wash and dress yourself, go out and do something meaningful, depression will hit you.
There is good news between all the horror, however. You are in control! You can just tell yourself, “Fuck it let’s do it!”, and take the jump. As any cliff diver will tell you, after a while panic turns into thrill.