Dating Library
All the info you every need about love, dating, sexuality, relationships, and more – organized in a neat list.
On this page, you’ll find hundreds of our favorite articles, infographics, presentations, checklists, podcasts, and videos from all over the web.
This page is an ongoing project and will be updated frequently.
Self-Improvement
Everything you need to become a high-quality man who exudes happiness.
How to Become An Attractive Man
- How do I become an attractive guy? – Howie Reith, Quora
- Dating expert Howie Reith lays out the process of how to become an attractive man.
- Become Successful With Women – The 9000 Word Guide – Julian Reisinger
- A huge guide that gives you a good introduction into everything a man needs in order to become attractive to high-quality women.
Happiness
- The 8 Things The Happiest People Do Every Day – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- University of California professor Sonja Lyubomirsky details the things research shows the happiest people have in common.
- Art Is Useless, And So Am I – Derek Sivers
- Derek Sivers writes about how, after trying to be useful to as many people as possible, he let go and did something for himself after 19 years.
- Why Generation Y Yuppies Are Unhappy – Wait But Why
- In this post that has been shared almost 600k times, Tim Urban explains why people of Generation-Y are headed for disappointment, and gives advice on what to do about it.
- New Neuroscience Reveals 4 Rituals That Will Make You Happy – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- "UCLA neuroscience researcher Alex Korb has some insights that can create an upward spiral of happiness in your life."
- Happy Thoughts: Here are the things proven to make you happier. – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- Eric Barker rounds up the research on living a happy life to see what works.
- The Zen of Doing – Zen Habits
- Leo Babauta takes a look at how focusing solely on doing can help you live in the moment.
- Think Like a Bronze Medalist, Not Silver – Derek Sivers
- Your happiness depends on who you compare yourself to.
- The Transformative Power of the Gratitude Habit – Zen Habits
- An interesting article on how a simple habit can transform our entire perspective, and with it our whole life.
Dealing With Emotions
- Emotional First-Aid – Guy Winch
- In this video, psychologist and TED speaker Guy Winch, Ph.D., explains how we can treat our emotional wounds, an area that until recently has been completely ignored.
- How to Interpret Other People's Behavior Towards You – Yogi Bhajan, Imgur
- Powerful image that will shift your thinking and reduces the effect others have on you.
- How to beat loneliness – Guy Winch
- Loneliness, an emotion that can also affect those surrounded by other people, does not only cause emotional pain, but also influences your physical health.
- How to Deal With Outside Negativity – Fuckology, Reddit
- Short and sweet image that will give you a new angle to look at outside negativity.
- The Law of the Garbage Truck – Reddit
- Short, brilliant, easy to remember. Everyone needs to know this law!
Lifestyle
- How Not to Hurry – Zen Habits
- "Is it possible to never hurry, but to get everything done?" Based on this questions, Leo Babauta goes through how one can successfully slow down and still achieve the same results.
- 20 Things I Wish I Had Known When Starting Out in Life – Zen Habits
- Advice for young adults from a successful 35 year old writer and blogger.
- Simple Living Manifesto: 72 Ideas to Simplify Your Life – Zen Habits
- In our cluttered world getting rid of the unnecessary is essential in order to be able to spend your times with the things that truly matter.
- The Things We Are Prepared to Walk Away From – The Minimalists
- How many things, people, responsibilities,... do you have in your life that are controlling you?
- The Journey is the Destination – The Minimentalist / Dennis Frank
- Dennis takes a sober look at self-improvement and breaks down good but generic advice into actionable steps.
Social Circle
- 7 Ways To Become A Better Friend – Love Life Solved
- In this article you will learn how to maximize your chances of developing and maintaining deep friendships for life.
- Stay in close touch with hundreds of people – Derek Sivers
- Derek Sivers shares how he stays in touch with a large number of people without relying on his memory.
- The Best Way To Build A Social Circle From Scratch – Love Life Solved
- Julian explains how you can build a strong social circle from scratch by joining a club.
- Goodbye Fake Friends – The Minimalists
- Creative piece about fake friends and letting go of them. Highly motivational!
Social Skills
- How does one become a better conversationalist? – Howie Reith
- The basics of conversation skills by the brilliant dating expert Howie Reith. An essential read for everyone.
- How To Talk On An Emotional Level – Love Life Solved
- Learn how to turn smalltalk into deep conversation with a simple rule.
- 12 Action Oriented Tips That Will Instantly Raise Your Social Skills – Love Life Solved
- Love Life Solved's most popular article.
- How to speak so that people want to listen – Julian Treasure
- In this TED talk, sound expert Julian Treasure demonstrates the how-to's of powerful speaking — from some handy vocal exercises to tips on how to speak with empathy.
- How To Meet New People Without Awkwardness – Love Life Solved
- Kristina explains how you can break the ice with new people everywhere you go.
- Why People Don't Open Up To You - Pete Zbrojkiewicz
- Are others worried that you'll judge them?
- How To Build The Habit Of Talking To Strangers - Pete Zbrojkiewicz
- Short and entertaining video on getting into the habit of socializing with everyone.
- The Great Perils of Social Interaction – Wait But Why
- In their hilarious minimalist comic style, the guys from Wait But Why go through a large number of awkward social situations. A funny read but it's also helpful to know what not to do.
- Is there any truth to Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People”? – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- Eric Barker takes a close look at the all time classic "How to win friends and influence people", to find out if the tips in there are supported by science.
- How to Win Over All the Ladies in the Room – Nick Notas
- Dating expert Nick Notas shares a simple tip that leverages social proof to win women's attraction before you have even spoken to them.
- How to Improve Your Social Skills Without Talking to Anyone - Pete Zbrojkiewicz
- Want to improve your social skills but are too scared of actually talking to people? Pete from Beard Strokings can help you with an exercise that you can do all by yourself – in your mind.
- 3 Jokes That Will Make People Instantly Like You - Charisma on Command
- Everyone should watch this video! It calls attention to a big topic: Are you alienating others through your jokes?
Body Language
- Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are – Amy Cuddy
- In this TED talk Harvard researcher Amy Cuddy talks about how our body language influences how we feel.
- The Newbie’s Guide to Looking Attractive: Body Language – Nick Notas
- Nick covers all the body language basics and gives exercises to improve your posture.
- Body Talk: Power – Mike Christie
- How the world's most powerful people use body language to express their dominance.
- 4 Secrets to reading body language like an expert – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- What science can teach us about reading people's body language.
- Chill Man: Why Slowing Down Will Boost Your Attractiveness – Love Life Solved
- Slowing down will make your body language instantly more attractive and holds many more benefits.
Habits
- The Habit Change Cheatsheet: 29 Ways to Successfully Ingrain a Behavior – Zen Habits
- The best tips on building habits I have seen so far.
- This Is The #1 Ritual You Need To Do Every Day – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- The power of rituals explained and backed by research.
- How To Change Bad Habits Into Good Habits: 5 Steps From Research – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- Learn the best way to turn bad habits into good ones – like all Eric Barker articles, scientifically valid.
Procrastination
- A million self help books boiled down to their essence in one sentence. – Reddit
- What if we front-loaded our pain? A short, but incredibly motivating piece about changing your life and beating procrastination.
- Everything You Wanted To Know About Procrastination But Were Too Lazy To Figure Out – Mark Manson
- Another approach to procrastination by Mark Manson. Funny as always.
- How To Stop Being Lazy And Get More Done – 5 Expert Tips – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- Eric Barker goes on a mission to find out why we are just so damn lazy and what we can do about it. In this brilliant article he also incorporates advice from Georgetown professor and best-sellingauthor Cal Newport.
Decision-Making
- Compass in Your Gut – Derek Sivers
- Learn how to utilize your emotional responses to make better decisions.
- How to be Assertive – Pete Zbrojkiewicz
- "'Do you want to watch Deadpool, Kung Fu Panda or something else?' You genuinely don’t mind either way. You never mind. You always prefer to let the other person choose, to make sure they’re happy."
Respect
- How To Get Respect: 5 Points Backed By Science – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- This article gets better and better the longer you read. Especially interesting is the part that scientifically tells you why acting to be someone you are not is a terrible idea.
Grooming & Hygiene
- The One Guide On Grooming And Hygiene Every Guy Needs – Love Life Solved
- Our friend Sibell has created the one definite guide which, if you follow it, will make sure you are being perceived by women as a well groomed man.
- Trimming a beard neckline – Rugged Fellows Guide
- Too high up and your neckline looks stupid, too far down and you look unkept. Trimming a neckline right is a tricky task. Thankfully, I found this visual guide on how to trim it properly.
- The Definitive Guide on How to Groom a Beard as it Grows – John Benos, The Manliness Kit
- Think about growing a beard? This is THE guide to follow.
Fashion
- The Quick and Easy Method to Choosing Good Looking Jeans – Nicolas Richard
- Nicholas Richard, the editor at Kinowear.com, shares some unheard tips for picking your next jeans.
- 15 Quick Fashion Tips for Men – Kinowear
- "#5: Never go shopping alone"
- A Visual Guide To Quick And Easy Color Combinations – Effortless Gent
- Let's face it, most guys are clueless when it comes to colors in fashion. This guide will change that without requiring you to learn color theory.
- 5 Tips To Dramatically Improve Your Style – Kinowear
- 5 fashion improvements that will improve your style immediately.
- The ONE thing you need to do to set yourself apart from every other guy – Effortless Gent
- Use details to make a fashion statement and stand out from the crowd.
- 40 Common Men’s Fashion Mistakes to Avoid – Kinowear
- Sometimes it's more effective to get rid of problems than to improve what's already ok. This is a must-read for any guy.
- How to Find Your Own Sense of Style – Kinowear
- For the more advanced, how to create your own personal style.
- Three Fs to consider when shopping for new clothing – Effortless Gent
- Never ever buy stuff you won't wear again.
Confidence / Self-Esteem / Charisma
Learn to develop lasting, rock solid confidence that comes from within.
Confidence
- How to be Confident – School of Life
- By dropping perfection you become more confident.
- Build unbreakable confidence in 5 simple steps. – How to Beast
- A proven to work, common sense way to build confidence.
- How can I be more confident around attractive women? – Howie Reith
- Experience based step by step approach to feeling more secure around gorgeous women.
Self-esteem
- Practicing Non-Judgment – Zen Habits
- "What would it be like to drop all of that judging as good and bad?"
- How We Judge Others Is How We Judge Ourselves – Mark Manson
- Philosophical, yet actionable article about building strong values and letting others have theirs.
- Are You Guilty Of Acting Cool? – Love Life Solved
- So many guys destroy their chances with women by trying to act like a hero from an action movie.
- The Poem That Will Teach You Self-Esteem – Love Life Solved
- Enlightening poem that should become part of your morning routine. Julian dug it out of an old German martial arts magazine and translated it into English.
Charisma
- Checklist: Are you doing these 5 things to be more charismatic? – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- Eric Barker curated the best tips on becoming more charismatic and put it into one awesome post.
- How to become more charismatic within a month – Jennifer Lowe
- Our friend, blogger Jennifer Lowe, walks you through a 4-week program, to gain charisma, that she has successful done herself.
- How Not to be Boring – School of Life
- Must see.
- How to be charming: 2 secrets backed by science – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- You will learn how to be sincerely happy for other people and what's been stopping you until now.
- How To Get People To Like You: 7 Ways From An FBI Behavior Expert – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- Fantastic social advice from the former head of the FBI’s Behavioral Analysis Program.
- Interesting People: 7 Things They All Have In Common – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- This post teaches you scientifically proven ways to become a more interesting person.
- Olivia Fox Cabane on Charisma – Olivia Fox Cabane
- "Is charisma something your born with, or something you can learn?" In this 45min video, Olivia Fox Cabane, author of "The Charisma Myth", shares actionable insights on charisma.
- How Louis CK Gets Laughs – Charisma On Command
- Interesting video that points out general principles that people who are naturally funny use.
Anxiety / Shyness
The most common mental challenges that make men struggle to connect with women and how to overcome or alleviate them.
Anxiety
- A Breathing Exercise to Calm Panic Attacks – Dr. David Carbonell
- The title says it all. Clinical Psychologist David Carbonell shares this simple and effective technique that his clients have successfully used for more than 25 years.
- How Social Anxiety Disorder Tricks You – Dr. David Carbonell
- A must-read for everyone suffering from social anxiety.
- Why We're All So Anxious – School of Life
- Short video which will make you feel much better about feeling anxious.
Shyness
- 18 Exercises to Overcome Your Fear of Meeting People – Nick Notas
- Fantastic, actionable tips and exercises by dating coach Nick Notas.
- How to Become More Social Instantly – Nick Notas
- Talk to everyone.
- Your Social Anxiety is Killing Your Game. Here’s How to Make It Go Away. – Pete Zbrojkiewicz
- How to stay authentic and still 'function' even when anxiety creeps in.
Rejection
- Why Women Reject You And What To Do About It – Love Life Solved
- Rejection explained from a female perspective. Sibell also gives tips on how you can reduce the likelihood of getting rejected.
- Why rejection hurts so much and what to do about it – Guy Winch
- "Psychologist Guy Winch shares some practical tips for soothing the sting of rejection."
- Overcoming Our Irrational and Sometimes Crippling Fear of Rejection – You Are Not So Smart
- Podcast host David McRaney interviews Jia Jiang, the guy who got himself rejected on purpose for 100 days in a row to overcome fear of rejection.
- TED: What I Learned From 100 Days of Rejection – Jia Jiang
- "By seeking out rejection for 100 days -- from asking a stranger to borrow $100 to requesting a "burger refill" at a restaurant -- Jiang desensitized himself to the pain and shame that rejection often brings about his social experiment."
Motivation / Inspiration
Content to pump you up and make you think.
Motivation/Inspiration
- My regrets as a 46 year old, and advice to others at a crossroad – John Jerryson, Reddit
- Moving and motivating, a 46-year-old banker takes a look back at his early life and gives advice on what could be done better.
- Dreams are here. Details have changed. – Derek Sivers
- I didn't know exactly where to categorize this article, but you have to understand the concept Derek explains in there. It could change your life.
- Your Life in Weeks – Wait But Why
- Visualizing just how short our lives are is a humbling, as well as a motivating experience.
- Breathe. – Zen Habits
- A simple reminder with big effect.
- 7 Inspirational Videos That Will Give You Goosebumps – Love Life Solved
- My favorite motivational and inspirational videos on Youtube.
Mindset
Adopt the thinking patterns of men who already have choice with beautiful women.
Mindset
- Huge Mistakes: Generalizing Women – Love Life Solved
- One of the biggest threats for your dating success – and we all do it.
- Should you just be yourself around women you’re attracted to? – Sarah Jones
- There is a right and a wrong angle to being yourself.
- Are You Good Enough For Her? – Love Life Solved
- Most guys have a huge "wishlist" of qualities that the woman of their dreams should have. But could they realistically attract a woman like that?
- The Tried And True Way To Building Attractive Beliefs – Love Life Solved
- A fantastic exercise for identifying and changing negative thinking patterns.
- Change Your Mind About Dating – Mark Manson
- Mark Manson asks a number of questions to might change how you think about women, dating, and yourself.
- What makes a guy "creepy" and how can I avoid it? – Reddit
- Great comment I discovered on Reddit about creepiness. (it's the one that's highlighted in yellow)
- The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck – Mark Manson
- Amusing, yet eye-opening article in which Mark Manson explains what "not giving a fuck" actually means.
- 5 Reasons why 99 percent of men fail with women and how to succeed. – Sebastian Harris, Dating Heroes
- #2: "They Try to Be the Super Alpha Dude"
- Fuck Yes or No – Mark Manson
- This simple rule will change the game for you. My favorite article of all time.
- The Guide to Strong Boundaries – Mark Manson
- Having strong boundaries is one of the most critical elements in dating. It can mean the difference between a strong, sexy guy and one that gets used.
- Women lovers and women haters – Mark Manson
- Men who (unhealthily) worship women and those who hate women, aren't all that different according to Mark Manson. A long but insightful read.
- How to Handle Crushes – School of Life
- We project our feelings for a detail onto the whole person.
Understanding Women
- What Sex Really Means to Women – Nick Notas
- Nick talks about the concept of romantic investment.
- On Hanging Out, Cool Girls, and Being Clingy – Stella J.
- Interesting read from the woman's perspective about two young adults who are dating each other casually and the problems that arise.
- Why don't some guys try more if the girl rejects them? – Adam Taha, Quora
- A trip in the twisted little world of playing games and saying A when you mean B.
- What Is It Like To Be A Hot Girl? A Guy Did The Experiment And Got Shocking Results – Krishnabh Medhi
- When software engineer Krishnabh Medhi created a fake Facebook profile to find out what it was like to be a hot girl, things got a little crazy.
- What Women Want That They Don’t Tell You – Sarah Jones
- "Don’t expect a woman to say, “Approach me now.”
- If my boyfriend had tried to use pick up tricks on me… – Introverted Alpha
- Dating coach Sarah Jones writes about what it was that made her fall in love with her boyfriend.
- What do women love most about men? – Sharmila Ashraf
- Brilliant Quora answer that lists behavior most women like in men.
- The most efficient way to attract women. – How to Beast
- The two universal qualities that make a man successful with women.
- What are the most important things that men don't always understand about women which would help if they did? – Howie Reith, Quora
- Howie Reith shares the main lessons he has learned about women.
Honesty / Vulnerability
- The power of vulnerability – Brené Brown, TED Talk
- Brené Brown is a research professor who has spent the past ten years studying vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame.
- The vulnerability primer – Mark Manson
- Mark Manson is famous for bringing the concept of vulnerability to the dating world. After reading this article you will know why.
- Vulnerability Without Weakness – Mark Manson's Concept in Action – Julian Reisinger
- Mark Manson has given us the theory on vulnerability in dating, in this post, Julian shows you how to put the theory into action.
Dating
How to get to know women, flirt effortlessly, create unforgettable dates, and much more.
How to Get A Girlfriend
- How To Get A Girlfriend In 6 Steps – A Common Sense Approach – Love Life Solved
- A proven process to maximize your chances of finding and ending up with a woman who's a great fit.
- What are some tips/advice for future reference if I want to find a girlfriend? – Howie Reith, Quora
- A list of 18 powerful tips that will make you a different man.
- The Friendship-First Approach to Dating – Steve Dean, Medium
- How to create dating success by building a social group around it. Interesting concept. This is part 1/2.
- The Friendship-First Approach to Dating - Part 2 – Steve Dean, Medium
- Part 2/2 of Steve Dean's friendship first approach to dating.
Friend Zone
- How To Escape The Friend Zone For Good – Love Life Solved
- Everything you must know about the friend zone and how to escape it in a short article.
- How Do I Avoid The Friend Zone? And What's Wrong With Referring To The 'Friend Zone'? – Reddit
- The type of comment (on Reddit) that can totally change the way you think about something. In this case the infamous friend zone.
Approaching / Starting a Conversation
- What to Say After “Hello” – Nick Notas
- Action-oriented tips that will teach you how to continue the conversation.
- The Best Pickup Lines Aren’t Spoken – Nick Notas
- What you say isn't as important as how you say it.
- How to Look Confident Approaching a Girl – Nick Notas
- Follow-up of The Best Pickup Lines Aren’t Spoken. This time he shares some great body language tips.
- Men: With what mindset do you approach and hit on incredibly attractive women? – Kristina Kirilova
- Kristina explains the correct mindset for approaching and gives additional tips.
- Should You Even Try? (For That Girl or Guy) – Nick Notas
- Motivational article about just doing it.
- How to Start Conversations With Women – Terry Travis
- This post combines my two favorite elements in dating: taking action + common sense. A great post that covers the basics.
- Only Jerks Talk to Girls – Nick Notas
- Why there is no shame in approaching women.
- The Ultimate Cheat Sheet to Meeting Women Anywhere – Nick Notas
- Nick goes through 29 different real situations in which either he, or clients of his, have met women. He also explains how.
- How to Meet Women and Start Conversations – Nick Notas
- The tree main ways to start conversations with women explained.
Signs She Is Interested
- How To Know If A Girl Likes You – Sibell Loitz
- Sibell Loitz, explains all the signs women give men to show their interest – men are clueless about most of them.
- How to tell if she likes you – Nick Notas
- Another article on the cues women give men, but from a male perspective.
Flirting
- How can anyone flirt with girls and what are some effective strategies to make you irresistible? – Howie Reith
- The best answer about flirting I have read so far.
- How to Read Her Body Language and Flirt Smarter – Nick Notas
- Flirting and body language are connected inseparably. Being able to read her body language well, will take your flirting to a whole new level.
- How To Flirt Without Being Creepy and How To Approach – Aaron Marino
- Solid advice that covers the basics of flirting. Just ignore the "download the app" pitch that starts at 6min 46sec.
- How to Flirt – Matthew Hussey
- Although this video is intended for women, it's equally applicable to men. Lots of great tips inside! Also watch this video by Matthew.
- How To Flirt Better Using Science – Tara Long
- Although it seems like another clickbait video at first, this video gives you some great common-sense advice that's actually backed by science.
- Why, how & when to Flirt – The School of Life
- Incredible video about the psychology of flirting. Great for adopting a mindset helpful for flirting!
Physical Contact / Touching
- What Are You Waiting For? Touch Her Already! – Nick Notas
- "In this article, you’ll learn how to touch early, touch more, and touch the right way."
- 21 Ways to Touch Her – Nick Notas
- Practical examples on how to touch her the right way broken down in steps – from low level to high level touching.
Eye Contact
- 6 ways to dramatically improve your eye contact skills – Steven Aitchison
- Steven goes through six different real life scenarios and explains how you can improve your eye contact in those situations.
- The levels of eye-contact – Mark Manson
- An analysis of all the different kinds of eye contact.
Sexual Interest
- How to Be a Gentleman That Turns Women On – Nick Notas
- Behavior and mindset that turns women on.
Transitioning From a Conversation to a Kiss, Number, Sex,…
- Shut Up and Kiss Her – Mark Manson
- Why you should just go for it. An article that will pump you up.
Texting
- 4 Questions to Ask Yourself When She Doesn’t Text Back – Nick Notas
- A little reflecting on what went wrong can do wonders.
- 15 Texting Mistakes That Stop You From Getting the Date – Nick Notas
- I love posts like this, no talking around, just 15 amazing tips that will instantly make you better at texting.
Asking Her Out
- What do you do if you have a crush on someone and they don't know? – Franklin Veaux
- Franklin Veaux is the go-to expert when it comes to living a sex positive life. This answer is a prime example of his common-sense, straight forward way of giving advice.
At a Date
- 5 Mistakes You Must Avoid On A First Date – Love Life Solved
- Go on a fictitious date and find out about some of the worst mistakes men make at a first date.
- First Date: How To Keep The Conversation Going & Create A Connection – Pete Zbrojkiewicz
- Social skills expert, Pete Zbrojkiewicz explains in this short post how to connect with your date on an emotional level.
What to Do at the End of a Date?
- What is a good way to invite a girl over after a date while making it clear that sex is not expected? – Anonymous
- A good way to do it when you are still insecure about the situation.
How to Follow-up After a Date
- Why do women not return phone calls after a date? – Sarah Smith
- "The dating world has moved from phone calls to texting. "
Sliding Into a Relationship
- The Shortcut To Bonding With A Romantic Partner On A Deeper Level – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- 27 questions that will help you get to know each other better and faster. Answering those questions together over wine and candles also makes a great date.
Online Dating
Best practices of online dating, guides to specific sites, and interesting statistics from major online dating sites.
General
- How Not To Suck At Online Dating – Nick Notas
- THE essential post when you are just starting out with online dating.
- How to Text Women on Tinder: The Smart Guy's Guide – Men Ask Em
- Em's advice is smart, practical, and healthy. I frequently fresh up my own knowledge about online dating with her advice.
- The Ridiculous Irony Of Online Dating – Conor O'Shea
- Controversial article that will make you think.
- Tinder Tips: How to use Tinder 1/2 – Terry Travis
- Part one of the two post series. This part is all about optimizing your profile to get the maximum number of matches.
- Tinder Tips: how to start a conversation on Tinder 2/2 – Terry Travis
- Part 2/2. When to write back, what to write, and how to transition to a real life meeting.
- Online Dating Advice: Optimum Message Length – OkCupid
- "As we began to dig into OkCupid’s messaging data, the first thing we noticed was that most people’s contact attempts are way too lonnnng."
- Exactly What To Say In A First Message – OkCupid
- Which first messages work best? OkCupid gives the answer by analyzing a data set of over 500,000 first contacts.
Profile Pics
- Get More Dates With Better Profile Pictures – Nick Notas
- Photos make or break your online dating success. Knowing how to take appealing ones is a key skill.
- The 4 Big Myths of Profile Pictures – OkCupid
- The OKCupid data analysts give some counterintuitive advice on which profile pics work best and why.
- Don’t Be Ugly By Accident! – OkCupid
- Data-based advice on how to take the perfect pictures for your dating profile.
Relationships
How to keep your relationship happy and exciting.
Choosing the Right Partner
- How to Pick Your Life Partner – Part 1 – Wait But Why
- Hilarious read in two parts with a serious aftertaste.
- How to Pick Your Life Partner – Part 2 – Wait But Why
- Second and final part.
- Love is not enough – Mark Manson
- Why “all we need is love” is actually bs.
Living in a happy relationship
- 6 Healthy Relationship Habits Most People Think Are Toxic – Mark Manson
- "2. Being willing to hurt each other's feelings"
Power dynamic in a relationship
- Is it true that "the person who cares less has the most power" in a relationship? – Andrew Ross Long
- How valuable is power in a relationship after all?
- How Cultural Differences Can Get In The Way Of Love – Nicolas Cole, Love Life Solved
- Guest post by former hardcore gamer turned bodybuilder Nicolas Cole, who shares a heartbreaking yet insightful story that happened to him personally.
- The 4 Most Common Relationship Problems – And How To Fix Them – Barking Up The Wrong Tree
- Four relationship destroying behaviors and four solutions. Backed by science from the expert on relationships himself, Dr. John Gottman founder of the Gottman Institute and author of more than 40 books.
- 9 Simple Ways To Make Your Girlfriend Feel Like A Goddess – Love Life Solved
- Because the woman in your life deserves to be treated special.
- How To Think Twice And Avoid Fights – Nick Notas
- After reading this post many of your fights will seem pointless.
- What Causes Fights In A Relationship? – Dushka Zapata, Quora
- Everyone in a relationship should read this!
- How to Stop a Fight Without Destroying Your Relationship – Love Life Solved
- In this post, Julian explains various techniques to prevent a fight from escalating.
- How To Break Up Gracefully – Mark Manson
- The 10 commandments of breaking up.
- 15 Best Ways To Get Over A Breakup – Nick Notas
- Spot on advice that's guaranteed to lift you up after a breakup.
- How to Get Over Your Ex – Laura Yates
- Down to earth, actionable advice on how to survive hard breakups.
- Letting Go of Shitty Relationships – The Minimalists
- We love this short piece because it considers saving the relationship and only after there is nothing to be saved anymore it goes into how to move on even though it can seem impossible.
- Can a man reject an attractive woman just to stay faithful to his girlfriend? – Howie Reith, Quora
- Obviously, there are still some men with principles out there.
- Why People Cheat In Relationships – Mark Manson
- A closer look at cheating from a psychological perspective.
- A Guide for Male Virgins – Modern Tantra
- A great article that goes through everything you should do to make first time sex as feel as good as possible for both partners.
- I Am A Virgin. What do I do? Should I Tell Her? – Reddit
- Mindset changing advice that I can personally confirm is the best way to go.
- Top 7 Myths About Premature Ejaculation – Medium
- Licensed sex coach Keeley Rankin shares her wealth of knowledge on the subject of premature ejaculation.
- How can I have a ''menage a trois'' with two attractive ladies in private and for free? – Franklin Veaux
- Become sex-positive first.
- How do happily married couples keep it sexy? A visual idea – TED Ideas
- An infographic about keeping it interesting.
- 3 Mantras for Terrible Lovemaking – Sex Nerd Sandra
- Knowing what not to do is sometimes more valuable than knowing exactly what to do.
- How to Understand Sexiness – School of Life
- What do our turn ons, like domination or outdoor sex really mean?
- The Sexual Fantasies of Others – School of Life
- Young people talking openly about sex. This video will remind you that there are so many different options. Whatever you like, there is someone with the same preference out there for you.
- 12 Myths About Sex – Institute for the Study of Urologic Diseases
- Fantastic infographic that might kill some of your misconceptions about sex.
- Honestly now: Does Penis Size Matter? – Reddit
- Simple, yet powerful rule of thumb.
Relationship problems
Being a great boyfriend
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Breakups
Cheating/Staying faithful
Sexuality
Boost your sexual confidence.
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Mindset of sex
Does size matter?
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