This is a guest post by Jeremy Kochis, founder of Unstoppable Match.
Lots of shy, introverted men feel completely stuck in their dating life. Things haven’t changed much for a couple of years or more, and they feel like their ability to attract the women they want to date is really weak. I used to feel this way all the time.
Many guys I work with as a coach are terrified of creeping women out. It goes so far that they try to stay extra safe just so they don’t run any chance of being perceived as creepy.
The above examples are all common ways men try to avoid coming across as creepy or rude. And by behaving like that they creep women the fuck out.
It’s tempting to believe that there is a formula to the heart of every woman. Sure, tastes differ and what’s attractive to one woman might be offputting to another, but what if you know what she is into?
Have you ever noticed that bartenders are always doing something? It’s true. They keep busy by polishing glasses, mixing cocktails, taking orders or refilling the snack mix. And there is a surprising reason for it.
This is a guest post by Rachel Esco. Rachel is a Toronto-based writer who is a keen observer of today’s young adult culture which she examines in her writing. Enter the stage, Rachel.
We all know that standards of decorum for the first date are not what they used to be ten years ago. Dating practices have changed as people are becoming more sexually liberal and open-minded. And with these loosening rules around first date propriety, how can people navigate between what is socially acceptable and perhaps too scandalous? This begs the following question: Should today’s singles have sex on the first date?
In the following, I will teach you a little trick that utilizes the element of surprise to ask women out on a date. I really like this technique because it is so non-needy and most women never get asked out that way. It’s definitely an experience she won’t forget so soon.
In 2008 or so, I first became involved with pickup. The thought of buying a book or video, studying it, and afterwards being able to date beautiful women was quite appealing to an 18-year old boy who had never kissed a girl before.
However, what seemed like a promising undertaking at first – “Once I know all the tricks and techniques I can have any girl” – turned out not to be the solution I was hoping for.
Frustrated after years of unsuccessfully working on my pickup skills and back at “women want money, fame, and looks” I started to ask myself, “Almost every gorgeous woman is dating some guy. Who are these men, the sexiest women are seeing, and how can I learn their secret?”
This is a guest post by Dave Perrotta, the founder of PostGradCasanova.com.
You see her walking by, and she catches your eye.
Tall, slender, long blonde hair, and a walk that runway models aspire to…
You snap out of your daze, walk towards her, and approach.
“Hey, I know this is random, but I saw you walking by and you caught my eye. I had to meet you. I’m Dave.”
“Wow, thanks! I’m Jessica,” she replies and shakes your outreached hand.
The conversation shifts back to you. At that precise moment, your mind goes blank.
You mutter something bland, like “Yeah it’s good to meet you…” without adding any more value to the conversation.
“Yes, it is! But I have to run! Have a good day!” she says.
And just like that, in a split second, you miss your opportunity.
Sucks, right?
We’ve all been in that type of situation before. We start off well, but then go blank, and the conversation stalls.
So, how can you prevent this? What should you say and do after you approach her?
That’s what this post is all about!
Let’s dive in.
You are an awesome human being. You and I know that. But the women you want to meet don’t. They have never met you and have no prior knowledge about you. So, unless you walk up to them and start a conversation, potential mates can’t know that you are this attractive guy they want to be with. Or can they?
Love Life Solved enables good guys to become successful with the women they like – without having to become someone they are not.
