This is a guest post by Dave Perrotta, the founder of PostGradCasanova.com.
You see her walking by, and she catches your eye.
Tall, slender, long blonde hair, and a walk that runway models aspire to…
You snap out of your daze, walk towards her, and approach.
“Hey, I know this is random, but I saw you walking by and you caught my eye. I had to meet you. I’m Dave.”
“Wow, thanks! I’m Jessica,” she replies and shakes your outreached hand.
The conversation shifts back to you. At that precise moment, your mind goes blank.
You mutter something bland, like “Yeah it’s good to meet you…” without adding any more value to the conversation.
“Yes, it is! But I have to run! Have a good day!” she says.
And just like that, in a split second, you miss your opportunity.
We’ve all been in that type of situation before. We start off well, but then go blank, and the conversation stalls.
So, how can you prevent this? What should you say and do after you approach her?
That’s what this post is all about!
Let’s dive in.
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Everyone wants to read about how to develop great social skills. But what good are the best tips and techniques if they are being destroyed by negative behavior that makes you come across like a douchebag? Worry no more. Here is a list of behaviors that you should avoid at all costs if you want to be seen as socially skilled.
Vulnerability is the key to bonding with others. Just look at every single movie with well-written dialogues. Screenwriters are experts in coming up with conversations that don’t bore. And their number one tool for keeping conversations interesting is vulnerability.
I often get asked how to keep conversations going when you don’t know what you should ask. It’s very simple. I just “borrow” a technique from professional actors that they use for improv every day.
Have you ever experienced a conversation with someone and you didn’t know how to get to a deeper emotional level? I for my part dislike small talk. I just find it boring. “How is the weather in Tampa? Is this heat wave still going on?” Even writing it seems to make some grey cells want to commit suicide. But for the better part of my life, I had no idea how to navigate around the seemingly unavoidable small talk and how to talk on an emotional level.
That should change one warm summer night on the university campus.
Social skills are crucial for all human interactions. Whether you are a scientist trying to raise money for your research or a regular guy who wants to meet interesting women, social skills are the key to getting what you want.
Have you ever asked yourself why people cut you off while you are talking? If it happens to you frequently you might be facing a serious problem without even knowing it.