Confidence is the holy grail of self-improvement. Everyone wants it. Yet, no one really knows what it is exactly, or how to get it.
A few years back, as I was browsing through a martial arts magazine, I came across a poem that would change my life. To this day, I consider it the best summary of how to develop self-esteem and reduce your ego.
Good looks don’t have anything to do with confidence. Good looking guys need less confidence. If you’re accustomed to positive reactions because of your superficial qualities, you don’t have to be half as confident as someone ugly.
Contrary to popular belief, true confidence isn’t built upon external achievements. You aren’t confident because you are a successful business man, or a NFL quarterback, or a famous singer. Sure, success in the eyes of society makes you more self-assured and boosts your ego, but that’s not true confidence and it can be gone from one moment to the next.