In 2008 or so, I first became involved with pickup. The thought of buying a book or video, studying it, and afterwards being able to date beautiful women was quite appealing to an 18-year old boy who had never kissed a girl before.
However, what seemed like a promising undertaking at first – “Once I know all the tricks and techniques I can have any girl” – turned out not to be the solution I was hoping for.
Frustrated after years of unsuccessfully working on my pickup skills and back at “women want money, fame, and looks” I started to ask myself, “Almost every gorgeous woman is dating some guy. Who are these men, the sexiest women are seeing, and how can I learn their secret?”
Confidence is the holy grail of self-improvement. Everyone wants it. Yet, no one really knows what it is exactly, or how to get it.
Good looks don’t have anything to do with confidence. Good looking guys need less confidence. If you’re accustomed to positive reactions because of your superficial qualities, you don’t have to be half as confident as someone ugly.
Contrary to popular belief, true confidence isn’t built upon external achievements. You aren’t confident because you are a successful business man, or a NFL quarterback, or a famous singer. Sure, success in the eyes of society makes you more self-assured and boosts your ego, but that’s not true confidence and it can be gone from one moment to the next.